7 Wisdoms from an Adaptive child
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Growing up, I often heard phrases like:
“Why can’t you be normal?”
“Why can’t you be like…?”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“Children should be seen, not heard.”
And when I didn’t comply, my defiance was rewarded with a painful butt.
Unknowingly, I became what psychology later named – the adaptive child — highly attuned, highly capable, and deeply disconnected from self.
In my early adult years, I tried to do what many high-performers do: adapt harder.
I was ambitious, successful, recognised, applauded. I wanted to be seen and heard.
I made sure I was. Until I could’t.
By 28, alongside a strong CV, I could also list burnout, a psychiatrist, medication, and an unsustainable reliance on caffeine and cigarettes. It worked. Until it didn’t.
I got lost because I had lost myself.
It doesn’t have to be like this for you.
You’re not alone.
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7 Wisdoms +7 Doshas at play
Wisdom 1. Adaptation is intelligence — not identity.
Learning to read the room, stay quiet, and getting it right is smart.
But a survival strategy is not who you are — and it shouldn’t run your adult life.
This is when Vata dominates with scattered attention, anticipating what’s next, and a nervous urgency.
Wisdom 2. What once kept you safe now keeps you small.
Adaptive patterns get rewarded early. Over time, they quietly cost energy, voice, and self-confidence — especially under pressure.
When Vata dominates (again) by maintaining tension to feel organised and trying harder.
Wisdom 3. Unregulated high performance leads to burnout.
Willpower and competence can carry you far.
They can’t replace a regulated nervous system when risk, speed, and responsibility increase.
This is Pitta dominating by overriding feelings, setting high(er) standards, and forcing productivity at all costs.
Wisdom 4. Voice reveals state, not just skill.
Losing your voice isn’t a communication issue — it’s a regulation issue.
When Pitta dominates again by over-analysing under pressure, constant critique and evaluation and judging self and others.
Wisdom 5. People-pleasing is a form of over-functioning.
It looks collaborative. It feels exhausting.
When Kapha dominates (often quietly) in having difficulty asking or delegating, over functioning through loyalty and carrying the burden of other to maintain harmony.
Wisdom 6. Authority comes from steadiness, not force.
Grounded high performers don’t push harder.
When Kapha dominates (again) by doing more to avoid disruption and slowly getting depleted. Effort should match the task — not the fear.
High performers hold their ground — and others adjust.
7. Mastery is the shift from coping to choice.
This is when all three Doshas are playing havoc:
- Vata: urgency
- Pitta: intensity
- Kapha: endurance beyond capacity
The goal is not to do more.
The 7 Wisdoms help you to shift from
Adaptive Performance → Grounded Performance